I just finished watching all nine–NINE!!–seasons of The Office on Netflix. It kept me company while I was sewing or folding laundry, and occasionally while I was cooking. Yes, that is a lot of laundry.
Did you ever watch this show? Bill and I watched almost every week for the first few seasons and then we just lost interest. It was fun to see the story arc as the show moved from season to season. Frankly, seasons 7 and 8 were a train wreck. But if you ever watched and enjoyed the first couple of seasons, it is worth watching the last two shows of the series. They were pitch-perfect, so sweet that I’ve actually watched them twice and might watch them again.
But the reason I wanted to blog this is for Pam’s sweet statements at the end of the show. In this clip, her last statement makes up the last words of the whole series. And it even gave me something to think about in the midst of my ordinary laundry and dinners.
“There’s a lot of beauty in ordinary things. Isn’t that kind of the point?”
Hope your weekend is going great. The trees have turned in a spectacular way here in Georgia. Time to get out and make some pictures. Here are just a couple of things I’ve run across this week:
Twenty-five years ago, the Berlin wall came down. Can you believe it was that long ago? Some thoughts from a former US soldier in Berlin: The Fall of the Berlin Wall. (Via Instapundit)
Christmas is coming. Least surprising news this week, I know. But have you seen Sew Mama Sew’s list of projects for a Handmade Holiday?
I published mine first, but here is Michael Hyatt’s list of his ten most influential books. (You can listen to his podcast, too.)
And for your listening pleasure…
Timothy Keller’s sermons are always worth multiple hearings. I was surprised to see not one but three new ones on my podcast subscription this week. (Score!) This is his podcast link, and the first one, on idols, has me thinking.
Do you use Spotify? I’m using this playlist but I need to branch out. What are your favorite playlists?
Have you run across anything really interesting this week? Please share in the comments. And have a great weekend!
I was quiet here a little longer than I expected! Sorry about that.
We are down to one trick-or-treater in our house, plus a sweet friend.
We are deep into late fall school around here, and Halloween came and went. Halloween used to be a huge deal around here, with costume planning going on for weeks and weeks. With Halloween on a Friday this year, we had a football game! Jack had to play in the pep band, so it was just the girls at home for Halloween night. Paige gave out candy with her grandparents and Darcy went trick-or-treating with a friend.
We were in the visitor’s stands. Apparently a lot of the home fans were trick-or-treating that night.
It seems like a long way from hanging out on the front porch with neighbors while we handed out candy. A little sad, but it’s a different season and so we are enjoying it. And Landmark won the game big, so that was great!
Saturday ushered in real wintery weather, forty degrees and windy! So we enjoyed a cozy day at home and all the girls pulled out their Uggs. Snuggly.
The fireplace is gone now, too.
Our big (good) news from this week is our house! Our new home is being built on the site of an older house, so we had to demolish that one. (Yes, I feel a little bad about that. But we couldn’t make the little three-bedroom ranch work.) Finally the demolition has begun, and we couldn’t be happier. On top of that, we got the final version of the plans delivered, and our builder has them, too, so we are eager to get moving on that next week.
Being involved in this process is like watching paint dry. I know it will seem fast once we are in our new house, but it isn’t easy to be patient.
Our bad news from this week is Matthew’s concussion. Yes, his second, so his season is over for football. We are all sad, Matthew most of all, because he loves his team and his coaches with all of his great big heart. The final regular season game is tonight, and we should be attending, but I’m waiting for Matthew to tell me he feels like going. So far I haven’t heard anything.
We would welcome your prayers for healing for Matthew on this one! He’s like me–he never prays for patience and not very good at it to begin with. Being still and quiet enough for all the healing to take place is a struggle, but it’s what his body needs most of all right now.
We are looking forward to two horse shows this month, and the beginning of wrestling season for Jack. Matthew hopes to start when he gets the “all-clear” from our doctor. Thanksgiving, too, which we are happy to host again this year. It’s Bill’s favorite holiday and he laid claim to hosting this one years ago.
Hope you have a great weekend! Do you have anything out of the ordinary planned for the week?
Sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. That’s not a choice we want Americans to make.
I can’t let it pass. Whether or not Obama misspoke, he is wrong and wildly out of line.
Assume he intended to say exactly this: It’s not his choice to make. As my 16-year-old son said tonight, “I thought he was pro-choice.” First, it sounds as if he believes that every person should maximize their earnings, I suppose so we can maximize our tax payments. He isn’t clear there. Second, this line came in a part of the speech advocating government-subsidized child care. So he is advocating putting more very young children under government supervision. No thanks.
Assume he meant to say: “…And that’s not a choice we want Americans to have to make.” (I think this is what he meant to say.) So he is saying that a woman shouldn’t have to risk a lower lifetime earning potential because she opts out of the workforce and works less over her life? How do those who choose to stay in the workforce react to that? This makes no sense–I don’t see how you incentivize workers if those who work more earn the same over their lifetime as those who come and go out of the workforce. If he is merely advocating increased government-funded childcare, he is trying (once again) to increase the number of people who feel they wouldn’t be able to survive without help from the government.
But in both cases, he is either taking away a choice (to stay home and choose to work less) or he wants to insulate people from the results of their choices. Neither is appealing.
The government shouldn’t be in the business of restricting choices. Yes, I know it happens all the time. That is what the tax code does. I despise it.
The second, though, seems to be a mindset really prevalent in today’s progressivism: No matter your choice, all outcomes are equal. All paths lead to exactly the same destination, the one “we” choose. And if that doesn’t worry you, I can’t help you in this blog post.
Have the baby or not…no difference.
Work or stay home…no difference.
Marry the dad or not…no difference.
Work hard to get ahead, sacrifice…no difference.
There is only one yardstick in Obama’s world, the bank account. And one measurer, the government.
The problem is that actions do have consequences. The choices we make, make us. Shielded from these consequences, borne through life in a grey sludge of equal outcomes, we will never learn and grow and become who we were created to be. I do not choose that.
The funny thing is that our president, who likes to tout “settled science,” utterly disregards studies like the ones I cited in an earlier post, about maximizing marital satisfaction and also the marriage premium that exists in the US today. And just yesterday I ran across this study that suggests that the most productive workers in the US are moms of two or more kids! What is he complaining about?
I’d like to know what you think about this. I’m unhappy but not surprised. Even Darcy knows that “This is my choice to make, not the government’s.”
Yesterday I took at look at my month of writing. Here’s where I want to go:
Change this blog format! Yes, my comments are wonky. Fix that. I want it to be more inviting, hold photos really, really well, and have an easy way to get my RSS feed or maybe even connect on Facebook. I would absolutely love to know what isn’t working for you on my blog, format-wise. What are your favorite features on blogs you love?
Be relentlessly ordinary. I want to focus more on the seemingly mundane parts of our life. I love seeing that on my blog. Yes, it is selfish, but I’m writing for myself and my family, mostly, so that’s what I want to write about.
Develop a regular schedule of some kinds of posts. In particular, I like to review the week, so I just need to pick a day. Sundays, I think. I also like holding myself accountable on my projects around the house. I think twice a month to check in on those would be fun.
Don’t be afraid to share my heart. Sometimes I would get shy and not want to post something that felt revealing. I felt that way even if I thought it was important. A good example is that proverb that I posted about, “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” It also felt revealing to post about how I have always wanted to be a homemaker, and hard it has been to own that. I want to stay open to writing things like that.
Keep writing. It’s definitely a muscle that needs to be used. It gets stronger the more I work it out. And I’m thrilled I made it all 31 days.
One thing I’m looking forward to sharing in the next year is our new home on the farm! Rumor has it that ground will be broken today. (Rumors have been wrong before, though, so I’m not holding my breath.) I may even do a “31 days of building a farmhouse” next October.
I’ve had a really interesting month doing this challenge. It confirmed to me that I miss writing, and while I don’t think I’ve really landed on my sweet spot in the blogging world yet, I’m on my way. I would love to have you join me as I continue this little experiment. You can get my posts if you use the RSS for posts, or maybe you use Feedly or something similar.
So, what do you think about my ideas? If you did the 31 day challenge, how do you think it went?
I thought that a review of the month would be my last post. But in reviewing my blog, I think it is better as two posts instead. Today, I want to review how this 31-day blog experiment has gone for me, what looks like it worked and what didn’t. Tomorrow, my post will be more forward-looking, to let you know where I’d like to go with this blog.
I took on the 31-day blogging challenge only to see if I wanted to start blogging again. I didn’t have a topic–I was almost purposefully random. I definitely “tried on” different kinds of posts as the month went along. Some felt natural. Others were much less so, and I’m sure those stood out!
I loved having a bloggable article that hits me where I live and makes me think. I love having a place like this to ruminate. (Other people have empty rooms…I have my blog! lol)
I liked my “This is what we did on a random day” posts. I’ve already forgotten some of those things, and I don’t know I would even have written about them in a journal. Kind of related to that are the “Week in Review” posts. I used to do those posts on Friday, but that won’t work in our current world. I might move them to Sunday evenings.
Most of all, I loved being able to share about our HOPE trip to the Dominican Republic. They are doing amazing work in poverty alleviation. I am happy to help spread their message.
I’m not a “mommy blogger.” First, my kids are too old. Second, my “wise woman” posts feel dumb and sound dumber.
I thought I’d blog more about crafts, or food, or clothes. Or horses. I don’t know how I did so little of that.
I absolutely despise the tech side of blogging. When my pictures went away I thought I was done for. I want to change the look of my blog, and some things like the comment area, but I will pay someone rather than frustrate myself.
I actually blogged less about my kids than I thought, too. I mean, I don’t really think I got into their lives in an intrusive way. They have read my posts and are fine with them, so there you are. But I’m not really worried about violating their privacy because I don’t think I saw a tendency to over-share.
I need to edit better before I hit publish. Too many typos, and too many awkward sentences.
I had a post about an ordinary life. It’s a pretty good description of how I feel about my best blogging.
I think I know where I want to go with my blog now. Tomorrow I’ll share that.
Meanwhile, I leave you with a recent text exchange. Thank God for good friends. And texting.
If you’ve read any of my old posts, did any one of them stand out in a good or bad way? And if you blogged through this October, what have you learned about your writing?
When it comes to raising our children, Bill and I have always agreed that our goal is not good kids. Our goal is competent, God-fearing adults who are capable of being happy. They aren’t necessarily the same thing, you know?
I’ve come across a couple of things in the last day or so that have me thinking. First, Penelope Trunk wrote about how we need to spend at least as much time teaching our kids how to find a spouse as we do helping them pick a career. After all, a happy marriage is a huge component of a happy life, at least if not more important than the choice of career. One interesting bit of research shows that a breadwinner should choose a non-breadwinner. According to Penelope, shared duties almost never work. And yes, I know Penelope is prone to sweeping statements but there is research to back her up.
My take-away from Penelope is to help my children know themselves and to understand what they are looking for in a spouse.
The second was a new study from American Enterprise Institute about family structure and economic outcome. It was discussed on Bill Bennett‘s radio show this morning, and I’ve read through it now. There is a ton of interesting information there, but it is only data and doesn’t try to identify correlation vs. causation. For example, the premium associated with growing up in a home with an intact marriage, and then being in an intact marriage yourself, is $40,000. That is a huge amount! But it doesn’t look at which comes first, the ability to be in a successful marriage or the ability to earn more money. But the differences are there and they are stark.
One little piece of information that got discussed on the radio show was that economic outcome of children increased with the educational level attained by the mother–even if she did not work when the kids were at home! As a stay-at-home mom with a master’s degree, that was interesting to me.
As long as I can remember, I’ve wanted a big family, and I wanted to be the mom. But when I was growing up, deep in the heart of the feminist era, that was really the one avenue that wasn’t open to me. “Oh, you want to do more than that” was something I heard often, not only from my mom but from my extended family. I was smart and got good grades, and I imagine everyone thought I was bound for high achievement in the work world. But what I heard was that being a wife and mom wouldn’t be enough. And that if I did really leave my career that I would have wasted my education.
In other words, I wanted a breadwinner but was trying to hide behind a breadwinner label myself. It didn’t go so well. I am lucky to have found a man who recognized my heart’s desire.
It has taken me a long time to feel like I don’t have to justify myself. Some days I forget all I’ve learned! But Bill will be the first to tell you that his success wouldn’t have come without the stable, comfortable home we’ve created together.
Education is never a waste. I am always informed by the thought processes I learned and used as an engineer and actuary. I bring some of that with me as I keep house and parent my sweet kids. No matter what my kids choose to do, breadwinner or not, their education is important and has implications for their lives, not just their work.
I can hardly believe it’s taken a couple of blog posts and an AEI study, of all things, to give me an “atta-girl” today. There’s definitely a lot more to think about, but I just wanted to share this one thing today.
I’d love to know what you think about this. Was your experience like mine growing up? What do you think about these studies?
I have really enjoyed trying to post every day–and this is my 28th straight post! Go, me. I’ve also been reading some other bloggers who are doing the 31-day challenge. Here are a few that have stood out for me:
Samantha McGowan: A twenty-something writes about life. I love her perspective!
Carrie Owens Photography: Tips and tricks for capturing all the details of your life via photography. I wish she lived in Georgia!
Notes in the Key of Life: Cindy writes about aging gracefully. It’s great to read writers who are a little ahead of me on the journey. So many bloggers seem to be thirty-somethings with little kids.
Copperlight Wood: Beautiful prayers from a mom in Alaska. Equally beautiful pictures.
Grace Every Day: Beth is posting about 31 different evocative songs this month. Very fun!
Honestly, I feel a little guilty just linking to a few of the more than 1200 blogs participating in the challenge. You can hop over here to check out even more interesting blogs.
It’s been almost a month, and I think it’s time to write a post about one of my favorite places, Shady Oaks Farm.
We bought Shady Oaks about two and a half years ago. Both our daughters were riding, and we had bought them ponies. Then I started riding, and of course then I bought a horse! Bill started adding up our expenses, and it was almost the same as purchasing a farm (or so we thought, lol). Plus we would much rather look at land, and enjoy it, than have a stock portfolio.
After a couple of months of shopping and agonizing, we happened into a wonderful little farm not too far from our house. It was already named for the beautiful alle´e of oaks that leads to the business end of the farm.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t also say that Bill and I had no clue about how to run a farm. But I loved our trainer Sandra, and asked if she and her husband would be open to moving to the farm, managing it, and being the trainer there. Thankfully they said yes! I think it’s been a blessing all around.
My partner in crime and me at a horse show.
So Shady Oaks has grown over the years, from 25 to 55 acres, and one riding arena to two, and we have a third on the drawing board. We have two barns, one for hay and equipment and the other for horses. We’ve added fencing all over, a cross-country field, and trails all over the farm, including down by the creek. Our most recent addition are the gates that I am inordinately proud of. I think they are gorgeous!!
We’ve also grown from about 12 horses to (I think) 26 right now. We’ve got many students, and a couple of horses who are here for training. We also have a goat, Moe, and a miniature donkey, Donkey. Or, Don-keh. (Say it with a Scottish accent. Get it?)
Just like Sandra and I had hoped, this barn is our happy place. We have wonderful boarders and students who are like family to us and each other. I wasn’t raised around horses, and I am continually amazed at the lessons my girls and all the other riders learn from being around these animals. Horse life has it all–divas, hard work, grit, terrible bad luck, beautiful partnerships. And so we keep at it.
Here are a few pictures from our fall barn party this weekend, complete with horse and rider costume contest and freestyle dressage. We are so blessed to have such friends:
Costume contest!One cute little witch.Ribbons for dressage.Bailey-the-best-pony-ever bobbing for apples like a rock star.Victory. Sweet.
Our next project is a house for us!! We decided a few months ago that our lives would be greatly simplified by living at the farm. We had acquired a property that had held problematic neighbors (I’m being nice here), and they were gone. And Bill and I have always wanted a real farmhouse. So we are building a very authentic-looking Georgia Piedmont farmouse. Think full front porch, white clapboard, metal roof. The architect is in his last steps of completing the plans, and the area for the house should be graded this week. We are thrilled.
The view from our future front porch.
I hope you will join us over the next few months as we build this house and get ready to be farmers. I am looking forward to calling our happy place “home.”
I’ve had my Fitbit Flex for about six weeks now, including some time off while I waited for a replacement to be sent to me. The replacement has been working great, no worries, and I have about a month of continuous data to look at. The Fitbit app has a way to monitor sleep and water intake, in addition to steps. (It also does other things but I ignore those.) It’s been interesting to see where my perceptions of my activity match reality as recorded by the Fitbit, and where it doesn’t.
Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
Start early: I have found that if I wait until noon to finish my first 24 oz. tumbler of water, I’m probably not going to get there. If I get to 1 p.m. and I’m only at 3,000 steps, I’m not going to have time to take a walk and I’m definitely going to miss my goal of 10,000 steps. The lesson here is to attack my goals early.
Intentionality is key: If I don’t take a walk, on purpose, of at least 3,000-4,000 steps, I absolutely will not make my goal. Cooking, doing laundry, and straightening up around the house, even combined with a ton of errands, just doesn’t get me to 10,000 steps. Blog-writing definitely doesn’t get me there, either.
Outside, not inside: So I’m back to walking outside, which I used to do religiously, and I’m not going to the gym like I planned and I’m also not walking on the treadmill. The fresh air is wonderful! I’ve missed it and I think the Fitbit drove me to it. I used to sit and do needlework while I listened to Daily Audio Bible in the morning. Now I just grab the headphones and listen to Brian on the paths.
Less: water. I don’t drink as much water AT ALL now that the weather is turning the slightest bit cooler. The app is making me very conscious of low water intake. I think I would only drink about 8-10 oz on the coolest days if I didn’t have this app bugging me.
Less: sleep. I found that I feel pretty great on about 6-1/2 hours of sleep consistently. That is less than I thought I would need! Sadly, I often don’t even get that much. I average somewhere around 5 hours and 50 minutes, and that isn’t enough. I can tell a huge difference between 5-3/4 hours and 6-1/2.
Exercise for my brain, but eat for my body: I was already pretty active, riding 3-4 days per week and doing Pilates twice a week. During the last five weeks while I’ve had shingles issues that has slowed down, but I’m getting back to normal. I had thought that adding the walking would have made some small shift in my weight or how I feel around my middle. Nothing. Zip. A couple of years ago I had fantastic success when I cut most carbs out of my diet. It was an incredibly boring way to eat, though, and I slowly reverted back to a normal diet and a more normal (soft) body. For me, it’s all about the food. Losing the 5-8 pounds I’d like to shed will mean going back to a boring diet, and I just have to decide which I want more.
I think my Fitbit has been a pretty interesting tool, and I’m glad I’m using it. I’m not going to draw any sweeping conclusions yet, since I’ve been sick for so much of the last few weeks (NOT normal for me). But I also think I’m seeing some interesting trends.
What about you? Do you have a Fitbit, or another tool like this? Has anything surprised you?
